How do you maintain healthy relationships?

Discussion question for May 5, 2023. NOTE: No meeting on April 21 or 28.

The Bible instructs us not to neglect to meet together, but to encourage one another, stirring up one another to love and good works (Heb 10:24-25).  How does trauma experienced in previous relationships affect your willingness or ability to engage with others?  What have you done to protect yourself from projecting past traumas into current situations, causing them to be self-fulfilling prophecies for harm?  How do you guard your attitude toward others when you first meet, or as you get to know them?  What conditions allow you to openly share yourself with others?  When are you tempted to put up a false front or withdraw from relationship?  What is one thing you wish you had known sooner that you would like to share with others about healthy relationships?